A time line of my woman situation

For those of you who are new, or have missed some important details, here is a pseudo time line/summary of my situation.

1.) I met her about 5 months ago, at a music concert. I later find out that she dances at a bar - you know, that type of dancing bar. (With the pole, but it's decent and no lap dances)

2.) She has a kid - and seems to have a complicated relationship with her ex boyfriend. He's 20 now, and she's 25. He has cheated on her, done things wrong - and he does not have a very good job, so he cannot really support her financially.

3.) I treated her exceedingly well - not only in terms of helping financially, but with respect, and things of that nature. She saw I had a different head than the men she was used to.

4.) Because of the world she lives in, I went in not trusting her at all. Due to this, stayed very alert to any changes in her behavior, things she said to me, etc. Due to this, I have caught her in various lies that she has no clue about. I have chosen to carefully put the puzzle pieces together and not assume or jump to conclusions when I find things out - which has worked out.

5.) The biggest issue was that she told me she broke up with her ex-boyfriend about 7 months ago. Too bad she lied - I found out they were together still while I was going out with her. This was about 3 months into our thing. By my information gathering, I think they only got back together for a few weeks within this time period.

Why didn't I say anything? Because I found out they had been together because of a fight she had with him, and broke up with him. She has no idea I know. This was 3 weeks ago. After I found out she had lied to me, I cooled off with her almost completely. I cannot accept lies and unfaithfulness like this - but there is a problem.

I do not know the extent of what happened - and by my information gathering it was the guy who kept going after her and she was figuring out how to separate from him.

So this time period I have been trying to gauge what happened - so may tell me to leave it after I found this out, but it is a complicated situation. He is the father of the kid, and wanted her much more than she wanted him back. As I live far away, who knows what happened.

Right now I as emotionally disconnected as one can be; this is because I know of the risks.